Book Review of “THE SERVANT”

I recently took the opportunity to re-read a great book from my shelf, called Servant

The Servant:  A Simple Story About The True Essence of Leadership by James C. Hunter.

This gem of a book has many great messages from group participation at a leadership retreat, facilitated by a purported legendary leader.  The book distills how to make significant progress forward from where you currently are as a leader.

I have attached the following book notes.  Please note that I tried to simply note the message, not the sidebar stories that the book does an exceptional job of expanding upon.  Please enjoy!

To buy a copy of this book, click here.

 

 

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5 great books for working on the personal development of young student athletes

What I like about these books the most is the focus on whole-person development for both coaches and student-athletes.  Great talking points, strategies, and frameworks for getting clarity, focus, and initiative toward being the best person you can be.

the-winners-manual_1    The Winner’s Manual  by Jim Tressel

 

bilas        Toughness:  Developing True Strength On and Off the Court by Jay Bilas

 

golden whistle       The Golden Whistle  Going Beyond The Journey to Coaching Success by Jim Burson

 

joeehrmann        InsideOut Coaching:  How Sports Can Transform Lives by Joe Ehrmann

 

todd gongwer       Lead for God’s Sake!  A parable for finding the heart of leadership by Todd Gongwer

I would love to hear your recommendations on other books.  Thank you for reading.

Pee Pee Pockets and Throwing Rocks

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I had an interesting evening last night.  Upon arriving home and getting the update from our babysitter, I told the boys after we ate supper, we would go to the park and see mommy working the high ropes course.  Jen had been working all day, and I knew the boys wanted to see her.  It is always a risk to take the boys to see her, knowing that they won’t see her again before going to bed.  I also talked to the boys about playing in the creek (that’s pronounced crick) after we saw her.

Sawyer had battled a slight fever throughout the day, but was feeling better when we got ready to leave.  I loaded the boys, some snacks, and our trusty double-seated stroller  into the van and started our journey.

Jen was working a youth camp ran by local LEO’s (law enforcement officers).  The parking lot was jammed with police cruisers and other borderline military-style vehicles, a sight that makes a libertarian cringe, but is a visual delight for a child.

We began our long ascent from the bottom of the valley in the park.  I thought Ryan would want to ride in the stroller after a while, but he did great hiking up the hill on his own.  We got to see Jen on top of the high ropes tower, and the boys said their hellos and goodbyes.  Ryan kept asking, “Can I go up there and see momma?”  When you are a little bit older, buddy…..

It took some doing, but I was able to convince Ryan and Sawyer that leaving momma was okay, because we were going to go and play in the creek.  I was also hoping the water would cool down Sawyer, since he was starting to get warm again.  We traversed back down the hill, Ryan again did a great job hiking on his own.

When we got to the water, the boys really enjoyed playing by a small waterfall in waist-deep water and throwing rocks.  I am convinced the boys would throw rocks in the water from sun up to sun down if we gave that choice to them.  It is pretty cool…..picking up a good rock, seeing how far you can throw it, how big a splash it makes…..very cool.  Sawyer was trying to pick up rocks that were almost bigger than him, that was a hoot watching him grunt and tug trying to move it.  We had a great time, until Ryan decided that taking off on his own was more important than listening to daddy.  When he is able to swim, that can be a choice…but last night, it caused us to cut our creek time short and head back home.  A police officer kindly gave us a tour of a cruiser, which Ryan enjoyed sitting in.

When we got home, it was snack time (and medicine time for Sawyer).  I got the bath ready and the boys did great.  We are really challenging Ryan to dress himself more and more.  Sometimes he does it with no problem, sometimes he wants us to do it for him since he is a “baby”, and sometimes he puts his clothes on backwards.

For some reason, it does not really matter if the underwear are on forward or backward on adult underwear.  However, for children’s underwear, there is a major (and uncomfortable) difference.  Ryan put his underwear on backwards, and he asked a great question.  “Daddy, how do I know which part goes in the front?”

“Ryan, the tag goes in the back, and the Pee Pee pockets go in the front.”

“Pee Pee pockets, Daddy?”

“Sure, that’s what they are called.”

Ryan loved the terminology, and kept repeating it as he got dressed.  I hope he remembers this the next time he gets dressed…..I think he will.  When I look back on this in the future, it may really be a teaching highlight……I taught Ryan about Pee Pee pockets……

Have a great day!

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Fun hanging out with Sawyer

Over the last year, I have often worked later in the day on Mondays and have assumed the challenging, entertaining, and sometimes maddening responsibility of watching the boys while Jen works.  I love it!

Yesterday was an interesting day.  Ryan had all day preschool, which meant Sawyer-Daddy time.  On these Mondays, I often get valuable and appreciated assistance from my longtime friend Bob Beckett, whose time, friendship, and love I appreciate tremendously.  We have great talks on baseball, family, faith, and life.

After dropping Ryan off at school, Mr. Beckett and I took Sawyer on some adventures.  First, we went to Dogwood Park on Miami University’s Campus to feed the fish.  dg2010_2He had a good time there, but not for the reasons I thought.  Due to recent rains, the pond was muddy and the fish were hard to see, except when they popped up to eat the bread we threw in.  However…..the excavator and dump truck nearby renovating Symmes Hall…..now that was the excitement!  We went over and watched the access road get dug up for about 20 minutes….big time fun!

After this, we went exploring the Oxford’s well-known black-covered bridge.  oxfordcovered bridgeThis was a first time visit for Sawyer and Mr. Beckett, so we went into and under the well-preserved piece of history.  Sawyer loved throwing rocks and venturing a few steps into the waters of Four Mile Creek. The water was high and running fairly quickly….so we need a return visit so he can wade out further.

We returned home, and Mr. Beckett left…..I got ready for work and Jen came home.  I would be back that evening for more….

Our final adventure involved taking a bike ride, with me pulling Sawyer along.  We ventured out and stopped by a couple of houses.  The skies were darkening, and our friends offered a ride home.  I responded with a heroic “we’ll make it home before anything happens”.  Well……the wind began gusting about halfway home, so I decided to stop by Mr. Beckett’s house.  He let us hang out there until the storm blew off.  It ended up being a small storm rain-wise, but the wind gusts and lightening forced us to take cover.

For our final act, I got to give Sawyer his bath and put him to bed.  We read the classic Berenstain bear book on manners, and then I got ready to lift him into bed.  I asked him for a big hug.  He gave me a slobberly wet kiss, then gave me a long squeeze, and then another wet kiss.  He smiled and I put him into bed.  He said “night, night daddy” and laid right down to sleep (very unusual).

A good day….please share your stories with me.  Have a great day!

 

Happy 6th Anniversary to my perfect wife!

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Six years ago, we became husband and wife,

It was the best day of my life,

Since then, our family has gone from two to four,

Of celebrating anniversaries, I hope there are many more,

Life seems to be going by in such flurry,

One thing is for sure, I am not in a hurry,

Some days are great, some put us to the test,

But it is our love that makes it best,

Everyone knows you are my better half,

Even though sometimes you would rather be on a raft,

I will continue to be the best husband I can be,

Thank you so much for putting up with me.

 

Love your devoted husband

 

Pride in the Alma Mater…..

 

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Starting Thursday, June 19, Miami University is hosting its annual Alumni Weekend.  It is one of my favorite events I have the privilege to
work each year.

I take pride in learning and knowing the history of Miami University, and I love to add to this knowledge by talking to the alums who lived
it.

Three themes always resonate from my discussions (four if you count the Redskins to Redhawks name change).  One, pride in being a Miamian.  Two, the relationships that were made.  Three, I cannot believe how much the campus and town have changed.

Change is a certainty, and change illicits very strong emotions.  If the building where you met your college sweetie is no longer standing, that’s a powerful emotion.  If the athletic venue where you cheered or played your school to victory is just a memory, you may have some longing to see it again.

At the Rec Center, we are part of that change for any alumni who matriculated before 1994.  I take great pride in the quality of our department and I love showing alums around.  “I wish this was here when I was”, “I would never go to class if I had this to use”, and “I cannot believe this building is 20 years old, you do a great job taking care of it”…..I love hearing this.  We do work hard to offer quality opportunities and taking care of what we have to offer.

The two questions I am going to ask this year to alums are “what was your favorite recreational activity” and “what makes Miami special to you”.  As always, I am hoping some former student recreation staff stop by and say hello.  It is a delight to see their families and catch up, and think about that time we worked together to offer something special to the miami community.

I would love to hear your thoughts about your alma mater(s).  Have a great day!

 

Here are a couple of my most viewed posts.

-I am the author of The Basketball Match Up Zone and Multi-Purpose Basketball Offense ebooks.

Click here for my book review of Toughness:  Developing True Strength On and Off the Court by Jay Bilas

Click here for my book review of The Power of Negative Thinking by Bob Knight

Click here for my book review of Bo’s Lasting Lessons:  The Legendary Coach Teaches the Timeless Fundamentals of Leadership

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70 years later, a chilling reminder…..

Today is the 70th anniversary of D-Day.  The news media is giving the event its due attention today.  I would urge you to give them a view to learn more about the invasion, I know I will.

Do you think your leadership role is too tough?  Imagine sending your troops into battle where casualties are estimated to be 75% or higher.  Could you do it? Could you live with it?

Could you have found the courage to push forward while getting seasick on the Landing Vehicle to the beach, then bullets, bombs, and your fellow troops are falling all around you?

Could you have remembered your job with all of this mayhem taking place around you?

Would you have been thinking about your loved ones?  And that you probably would never see them again?

If you were wounded, would you fight to stay alive?

How would you feel if you have to step over dead bodies everywhere to move forward?

Wars are glorified and victories celebrated…..think about the loss in the most brutal ways.

How would seeing and thinking about all of these impact your mental health moving forward?

Regardless of how you feel about the leadership that makes war inevitable throughout history….the courage and sacrifice of the soldier “just trying to do their job” demands to be respected and admired.  They did things most of us cannot even imagine.

Thank you veterans, you fought for an ideal and a mission most of us will never understand.  We should all try to live a life of value to honor the folks who made our opportunities possible.

 

Here are a couple of my most viewed posts.

-I am the author of The Basketball Match Up Zone and Multi-Purpose Basketball Offense ebooks.

Click here for my book review of Toughness:  Developing True Strength On and Off the Court by Jay Bilas

Click here for my book review of The Power of Negative Thinking by Bob Knight

Click here for my book review of Bo’s Lasting Lessons:  The Legendary Coach Teaches the Timeless Fundamentals of Leadership

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