The most disgusting human being……

A typical view, Sawyer eating something he should not be

A typical view, Sawyer eating something he should not be

Disgusting!  What do you think of trying to define the word?  The nature of political discourse in this country?  Human behavior?  Bad smells?  For this post, disgusting is what is put into your mouth.  Based on this definition, Sawyer is my nomination for most disgusting human being on the planet.

What a terrible father I must be, saying my 22 month old is disgusting.  Well, let me offer the following sample as evidence.  Seeing him put these things in his mouth make me cringe and pray that he is building up super immunity, and won’t get sick.

  • dirt, rocks, grass, flowers, mulch, bird poop (yes, I have seen him scrape bird poop from a lawn chair and eat it)
  • bath water, soap, suck water out of rags
  • play dough, crayons, marker tips, pencil erasers, nerf balls
  • dog hair, dust bunnies, dog’s water
  • paint chips, glue, his crib (yes, he has chewed on part of his crib)

The funny thing is, my yelling at him makes him laugh and seemingly want to do it again.  Trust me Sawyer, I will give you plenty of attention without you doing this.  He even smiles when I call him the “most disgusting human being on the planet”.

And yet, I still think his kisses are so sweet…..he just gets my cheeks instead of my lips.

What things have you seen your kid put in their mouth?

Have a great day everyone.

 

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Adios Cancun…..de vuelta a Ohio

Back from Cancun!

This past week, Jen and I had the privilege of going to a resort in Cancun, Mexico to watch my brother Kevin get married.

Kevin and Tricia taking their vows.

Kevin and Tricia taking their vows.

Besides the wedding, what made this eventful was this was the longest Jen and I would be away from the boys at the same time.  (Thanks to my mother-in-law and boyfriend for taking care of the boys).  This was almost a second honeymoon for us!

Here were some highlights from the trip:

  • great weather
  • a chance to relax and spend time with Jen
  • spending time with my parents and brothers Kevin and Tom
  • getting to spend time with my nephew Logan (1 year old)….and hearing the announcement he is going to have a baby sister
  • snorkeling for the first time…..I never got the hang of breathing through the tube though….amazing underwater views of reefs and aquatic life
  • five days with no cell phone (old school)
  • biking around the city

I was tremendously impressed by the “culture of service” that the Riu Palace resort staff demonstrated throughout the week.  Their industriousness, speed, and smiles could not be overlooked.  From the custodial staff to front desk staff to wait staff, the attention to detail in their jobs was inspirational.  As a leader, I was inspired to be more energetic, friendly, move quickly, and serve others.  I don’t know if other resorts are like this, or what training Riu Palace employs.  It is apparent their expectations are high and the inspection process is intense.  No slackers are allowed on this team!

After returning to Ohio, we were so thankful to see our boys again.  They wore Nana out!  Ryan was under the weather and you could tell he was off.

Before making it back to Oxford, I took Sawyer to the Freedom Horse Farm operated by Joy Lenarth and her husband Victor.  The Lenarths are two of my wonderful friends from high school and they do an amazing job with their farm.  Sawyer had a great time walking around and making “neigh” sounds.

I am amazed at the universe.  We had stopped at a park near my hometown so the boys could get some energy out.  I was thinking that I should call the Lenarths to see if I could bring the boys to their farm.  Right then, Joy and her mom appeared on the trail with two of Joy’s sons.

Our last stop before arriving back home was at the Mansfield Carrousel.  Ryan was not interested in riding, but I think Sawyer would have rode it all day if able.  I love seeing that boy smile!

I am so thankful to have had this opportunity to spend time with family and relax.  I hope your families have had a chance to get away and rejuvenate.  I would love to hear about your experiences.  Have a great day!

R

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“If you got hit by a bus” leadership model

In his wonderful leadership book gls-book-cover-its-your-shipIt’s Your Ship (one of my all time favorites), Captain Michael Abrashoff talks frequently about building his bench two, three, and four sailors deep that made his ship more combat ready, while at the same time creating new opportunities for his dedicated crew.  In team sports, the teams that often have excellent depth are the teams that are the most successful.

A very common problem in organizations is when members hoard their knowledge and skills.  Whether the motivations are a lack of trust, lack of direction, being territorial, or not being asked, this lack of transferring institutional knowledge creates a major gap in organizational performance when this person is absent or leaves the organization.

In one month, a science department on Miami University’s campus lost 90 years of experience between a 50 year and a 40 year administrative staff members retiring!  The 50-year employee represents almost 25% of Miami’s history as an institution. How in the world can you replace this institutional knowledge?  Can you even expect to?  Can you get close?

Over the years, I have tried to practice and encourage with my staff a model called “If you got hit by a bus…what would happen?”  The premise is that if I got hit by a bus tomorrow, have I trained an individual or team enough that my role could be filled without drop off?

Others may disagree, but I believe someone INCREASES their value to an organization by sharing their learning, their experiences, their wisdom.  When you increase your value, you increase your sphere of influence and ability to serve.

If we are good parents, don’t we strive to follow this model?  Think about it.  We are teaching our children our values and our experiences.  We are trying to leave a wonderful legacy for our children to learn from.  As an extreme example, don’t we want to tell our children we love them every chance we get, in case we don’t get to see them again?

One of the reasons I started this blog was to have a journal….a legacy of sorts sharing some of my thoughts and memories.  Think of ways you can document what you want to pass on.  Whether you realize it or not, every action we take is making an impact somehow in the world.  Don’t be afraid to share your amazing, unique gifts with the world!

Thank you for reading.  Tell me something you shared recently and good luck building your bench!

-Ron

 

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A July Weekend with my sons

I got so lucky,

That Jen decided to go to Kentucky,

‘Twas just the Siliko boys,

They are my pride and joys,

From the fair and then the market of farmers,

To the Rec Center and Library of readers,

Carnival riding, food shopping, home gardening,

Walking, running, reading, playing, and talking,

Eating ice cream and dinosaur eggs in a sugar cone,

Before beginning our big walk home,

Now the weekend is nearly over,

Precious daddy time is better than a four-leaf clover.

 

I hope you had a great weekend, let me hear about it.

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Busted! (But thankfully not….)

I frequently bike to work.  I find it is a wonderful way to get into flow with the intensity of attention needed to react to stimuli.  I also get some exercise and save money on gasoline.  I highly recommend it if your commute allows it.  I also listen to some sort of inspirational podcast.  On my way home, it is a nice way to de-compress before going into super-daddy mode.

More often than not, I do not wear a bike helmet.  Yes, I know I should.  Helmets protect your head.  It’s silly not to, right?  I live in a small town, so I am recognized when I do not wear it.  I just never wore a helmet, even as a kid.  This seems like a generational thing…or a rural thing.  Knock on wood, I have never had a crash were I knocked my noggin’.

One of my co-workers, Terri Shannon, frequently reminds me about this.  Last week, Sabrina Jewell, one of our Rec Center members, pulled me aside and told me how important it was for me to protect myself because I am father.  She also shared a personal story that brought the point home.  Funny, my wife never says anything….just kidding…she reminds me as well.

Besides the safety concerns cited, they all have echoed “if you expect your boys to wear bike helmets, you must do it as well”.  And that’s the reason I will do it.  I do want my boys to wear helmets.  I do not want to be a hypocrite.  This little poem is always with me as I strive to be a good father.

A Little Fellow Follows Me by Lee Fisher

A careful man I want to be,
A little fellow follows me;
I do not dare to go astray,
For fear he’ll go the self-same way.

I cannot once escape his eyes,
What’er he sees me do, he tries;
Like me he says he’s going to be,
The little chap who follows me.

He thinks that I am good and fine,
Believes in every work of mine;
The base in me he must not see,
The little chap who follows me.

I must remember as I go,

Through summer’s sun and winter’s snow;
I’m building for the years to be
That little chap who follows me.

Thanks to these people who care and are tough enough to coach me, I will make the effort to fix this habit.  I would love to hear about a hypocritical habit you want or have broken.  Have a great day!

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Two poems with personal meaning, and my personal pen to paper poetry

Here are two of my favorite poems, along with some personal attempts at poetry.  The Lee Fisher poem was a John Wooden favorite mentioned in several of his books.  The Edward Everett Hale poem I came across in a Jim Tressel book.  The poems focus on being a role model and taking positive action.

A Little Fellow Follows Me by Lee Fisher

A careful man I want to be,
A little fellow follows me;
I do not dare to go astray,
For fear he’ll go the self-same way.

I cannot once escape his eyes,
What’er he sees me do, he tries;
Like me he says he’s going to be,
The little chap who follows me.

He thinks that I am good and fine,
Believes in every work of mine;
The base in me he must not see,
The little chap who follows me.

I must remember as I go,

Through summer’s sun and winter’s snow;
I’m building for the years to be
That little chap who follows me.

 

I Am Only One by Edward Everett Hale

I am only one,
But still I am one.
I cannot do everything,
But still I can do something;
And because I cannot do everything,
I will not refuse to do the something that I can do.

 

And my personal poems…..

For my recent 6-year wedding anniversary….

Mother’s Day 2014

Ryan’s 3rd birthday

Sawyer’s 1st birthday

2nd Birthday Poem for my son Ryan
Two years ago I became a dad,
And for that, I am very glad,
To watch you grow has been so neat,
I could not think of anything more sweet.

You amaze me every single day,
with what you learn, do, and say,
you are growing up so fast,
your birth seems in the recent past.

What a great year this was for you,
Talking, reading, running, riding tractors, playing, potty time too,
As well as the gift of a little brother Sawyer,
To love and share your knowledge as a gifted life learner.

I love you so much Ryan,
I couldn’t do this without cryin’,
I hope you have a great birthday,
Keep enjoying life’s blessings along the way.

Love,
Your Dadda

 

A Birthday Poem for Jen

From our very first date,
To see you next I could not wait,
I knew you were the one,

I am so grateful,
And especially thankful,
that you felt the same,

From there to here,
It is amazing where,
We are today,

Married, with two boys,
And a history of joys,
Would not have happened without you,

The love of my life,
Is my perfect wife,
You get better every day,

Now that you have this prelude,
To the poem I must conclude,
Happy Birthday sweetie!