#Lunchboxnotes 10.6.16





#Lunchboxnotes 10.5.16



Legacy Living-Sawyer’s Bedtime Routine

I am participating in this routine every chance I get, because I know one day he’ll outgrow it.  It’s Sawyer’s bedtime routine.

From the time they were born, Jen and I have actively read, sang, and talked to the boys when they are getting ready for bed.  We believe the benefits are tremendous, and will foster a deep appreciation for reading and learning.

What I enjoy most is when the boys curl up on my lap and follow along.  It’s one of the greatest rewards I get as a father.

I am sadly aware that one day, they won’t want to do this anymore.  I’ll have my memories, and this blog post.

Sawyer’s routine goes like this:

  • I finally corral him into his room to get ready for bed.  Sawyer rarely goes to bed willingly, but he will go into his room to read.
  • He’ll say, “Let’s read a book, daddy.”
  • We’ll negotiate on the number of books we’ll read.  It’s based on length of the books he wants to read, our energy level at the time, and how late it is.  The average is two.
  • Sawyer says, “Sit in the chair, daddy.”  I sit in the easy chair, and Sawyer pops out the leg rest so we can stretch out.
  • Sawyer then grabs his blanket from his bed and lays it across my lap.  He climbs up, grabs his book(s), and snuggles into a position he wants.
  • After we read the books, he either gets tucked into bed, or he demands that I stay in the chair so we can fall asleep together.  “Sleep here, daddy.”
  • If we sleep together on the chair, I wake up at some point, and put him into bed.

We have such a mutual connection when this happens.  While it won’t last forever, I am confident I am sowing the seeds for a strong future relationship.  Sawyer knows I support him and love him.

Enjoy your moments that may not last forever.  Thank you for reading and have a great day.


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Imagination…..it can take you anywhere you want to go

As adults, do you feel as if you have lost your ability to imagine things?  Do you feel you are a creative person?

I find it interesting that if you ask a child if he/she is artistic, they will most likely say yes, unless this has already been squashed by an adult.  Children can sit in their house’s play area and take marvelous adventures to outer space or become a superhero.  You ask an adult the same question, they will likely say no.

Two things in the last few years has changed my response to this question.  Number one, I re-defined personally what my definition of creative is.  I used to narrowly define creative as someone who is skilled in arts and crafts.  Now, I define creative as someone who can solve problems in any area, or get their imagination to visualize a solution or think through something.  One way I stretch my imagination is by reading a book or listening to a ball game on the radio.  I am creative thinking about ways to teach customer service or basketball techniques to reach different audiences.

The second is getting a “second chance” at childhood going through it with my boys.  Recently, my boys and I were playing in the sandbox and we had left the tractor toys in the car.  Ryan quickly gave me the assignment of being the “bulldozer”.  I watched him play the “excavator” by scooping sand with his hands, so I transformed my hands into a bulldozer to do the job he gave me.  Sawyer played the front end loader building up the sandpile.

To the first point, I conducting a twitter/facebook poll asking the question whether people would rather watch baseball on TV or listen to it on the radio. Opinions were nearly split, but a slim majority did prefer listening to it on the radio.  I enjoy visualizing the game in my head and the anticipation of waiting to hear what happens.  I have many happy memories of doing work growing up while listening to the games on the radio with my dad and brothers.

I was surprised that most of the kids I asked watching baseball on TV.  In fact, they gave me a weird look for suggesting the radio.  Generation gap strikes again.


Should I be surprised?  Kids are stimulated in different ways these days.  They play hours of video games and watching others do things.  There is such a decline in actual physical movement that it makes me sick to my stomach.  I am not sure I am ready to re-define my definition for such sedentary activity.

I mentioned that books are a great creative stimulant for me.  If you are looking for two books that will get you pointed in the direction of imagining a better life for yourself, I would recommend the following books and the action plans presented inside:

In addition, find a TV/radio, or internet program on a particular interest/hobby of yours, close your eyes, and listen to it.  Your mind will soon be jumping with creativity.

Happy thinking!




Reading about self-improvement is good, sticking to the plan is much better…

In a self-discovery this summer, I realized that I do a great job about reading self-improvement books, but a lousy job of executing the action plans.  I take bits and pieces for implementation (here are some of the books I am referring to).

This is a pattern I want to change.  Because it is not just about self-improvement action, it is also about diets, exercise, and the other plans that I have not followed through to completion on.

Starting in July, I made the commitment to the year-long process of reading and implementing the “Scrolls” laid out in the best-selling books by Og Mandino (The Greatest Salesman In The World and The Greatest Secret In The World)

The process that Mr. Mandino presented was the following for 30 days:

1.  read the same scroll for 30 days, 3 times a day

2.  in the last reading, read it aloud

3.  record how many times you read the scroll each day + grade yourself on applying a given principle

4.  record any appointments and achievements for the week

I am happy to report I have completed the first 30 days.  I plugged in appointments for my three daily readings, which helped keep me on track.

This first scroll was “I will greet this day with love in my heart.”  The given principle to apply was to silently say “I love you” for each person I interacted with.

My discovery was….when I made this silent statement, it helped relax me for the interaction.  If I forgot to do it, hopefully I had some carryover effect from recently doing it.  If I did not have the carryover, I definitely felt the difference in my presentation.

I would to say I completed 90 readings….but I did not.  But 78 is not too shabby.  I will continue to work to improve this %.

I have now embarked on the second Scroll “I will persist until I succeed”.  The given principle this month is to not leave work without having a success to leave on.

Now that I have made this commitment public, I hope those of you reading this will check in with me and help hold me accountable.  I would appreciate this greatly.

Is there anything you would like me to hold you accountable for?  Any success stories in completing self-improvement plans?  What difference did it make in your life?

Look forward to hearing from you.