#Lunchboxnotes 2.2.18 #Friday #FridayFeeling #Dadlife

 

Today’s notes are inspired by the great book Lead For God’s Sake:  A Parable For Finding The Heart Of Leadership by Todd Gongwer.

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#Lunchboxnotes 2.1.18 #Thursdaythoughts #Thursday #Dadlife

Today’s notes are inspired by the great book Lead For God’s Sake:  A Parable For Finding The Heart Of Leadership by Todd Gongwer.

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#Lunchboxnotes 1.31.18 #WednesdayWisdom #Wednesday #Dadlife

  

Today’s notes are inspired by the great book Lead For God’s Sake:  A Parable For Finding The Heart Of Leadership by Todd Gongwer.

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#Lunchboxnotes 3.16.17 #ThursdayThoughts #thursdaymotivation #thursdaythrowback

 

 

 

Today’s #lunchboxnotes thoughts came from Todd Gongwer’s great book Lead For God’s Sake:  A Parable For Finding The Heart Of Leadership

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My speech to our student management staff on personal development

 

Ron’s Leadership/Personal Development Resources/Notes

 

If you believe it, you can achieve it.

 

In customer service, it is important to realize patrons don’t know/understand our terminology.  We must interpret, ask questions, create links, and ask for affirmation.

 

You will be the same person five years from now that you are today, except for the people in your life and what you learn.

 

Expectations of children, why not adults?

 

  • If reading is important for children, it is important for you!
  • You are the average of the Five People you associate with the most.  Are you getting value in these relationships?

 

Utilize the University On Wheels, Exercising Your Body and Mind.

 

What’s on your Twitter feed?  Best way to filter your information

 

John Wooden Pyramid of Success

 

Next play…but reflect later for improvement

 

Starting is half-finished

 

Fail forward

 

Parkinson’s law

 

Don’t worry about what to do in the next 3 days, get to work for the next 15 minutes

 

30 day habits

 

Andy Andrews Seven Decisions

 

  • The Buck Stops Here
  • I will seek wisdom
  • I am a person of action
  • I have a decided heart
  • Today, I will choose to be happy
  • I will greet this day with a forgiving spirit
  • I will persist without exception

 

Find someone who is doing what you want to do, and develop a relationship with them.  Search for podcasts, YouTube subscriptions

 

Don’t want to purchase books, use your free library card.

 

One resource will lead you to another, which leads you to another in an endless web of resources, learning, and skill acquisition.

 

Here are some resources I believe will aid tremendously in your personal development::

 

5 great books for working on the personal development of young student athletes

What I like about these books the most is the focus on whole-person development for both coaches and student-athletes.  Great talking points, strategies, and frameworks for getting clarity, focus, and initiative toward being the best person you can be.

the-winners-manual_1    The Winner’s Manual  by Jim Tressel

 

bilas        Toughness:  Developing True Strength On and Off the Court by Jay Bilas

 

golden whistle       The Golden Whistle  Going Beyond The Journey to Coaching Success by Jim Burson

 

joeehrmann        InsideOut Coaching:  How Sports Can Transform Lives by Joe Ehrmann

 

todd gongwer       Lead for God’s Sake!  A parable for finding the heart of leadership by Todd Gongwer

I would love to hear your recommendations on other books.  Thank you for reading.

The Power of Outside Affirmation, Can We Serve In This Way?

Over the past year, I have found my coaching heavily influenced by Joe Ehrmann‘s book Inside-Out Coaching:  How Sports Can Transform Lives, Todd Gongwer‘s book Leading for God’s Sake:  A Parable For Finding The Heart Of Leadership, and Jay Bilas‘s book Toughness:  Developing True Strength On And Off The Court.  Each of these books challenge the reader to think about WHY they are doing anything.

As coaches, we have to think about having a WHY that transcends wins and losses.  There is not a singular correct WHY, but coaches need to think about the reasons WHY they coach.  Are these reasons for coaching transformational, or transactional (Joe Ehrmann’s work)?  Is your coaching transforming and improving lives in a positive way, or only creating interactions interested in wins and the player doing what he/she is told?

I have recently defined my WHY as:  “To develop positive character through my platform by teaching the fundamentals that will translate to future endeavors”.

As I was watching this video from the Cleveland FCA on Leading For God’s Sake, I started thinking about my WHY and how the so-called “little things” are so crucial to success.  If I can assume the majority of coaches are using their platform to positively develop people, can coaches serve each other by providing outside affirmation to their players?  I think all coaches realize from time to time, our players may begin to “tune us out”.  As coaches, I think most people do not recognize the little things, the dirty work, the tough plays that lead to team success beyond the highlights of the shooter, the pitcher, the home run hitter, the touchdown scorer, the QB sacker.

What power would there be if an opposing coach came up to one of your players as said, “You are the best screener we play against, you do a great job getting your shooters open”.  “You always take the toughest offensive player and battle him for every point”.  “You play unbelievably great help defense, you drawing three charges in that last game changed the momentum to your team”.  “I heard you are in the top three academically of your class, you are the epitome of a student-athlete”.  TALK ABOUT AFFIRMING THE RIGHT THINGS!  This would only help and encourage players to continue to develop and enhance these little-recognized strengths.  We would truly be serving the sport and young people by doing this.  As coaches, we need all players to feel valued in their roles and in their strengths.

In developing these coaching partnerships, I envision the following process:  ask permission of your fellow coach; pull athlete aside in warmups for affirmation; ask fellow coach to do the same.   If we could serve each other as coaches in this way, think about the power of transferring this to everyday life….we are quick to complain, but do we go above and beyond to thank the people that serve us?  This could be the beginning of a whole revolution….professing our gratitude and respect, that’s my dream anyway.  We all know people who already serve others with the compliments, and we all know those people who are quick to complain as well.

There are some questions to this process, and I don’t know if I have the answers.  These include:

-we are competing to win, can we risk building up a player before a game?

-are we affirming the right things?  Should both coaches be present for this affirmation?

Tough choice….am I hurting my team’s chances of winning by boosting another team’s confidence?  Can I trust the other coach to affirm my player, or do I need to be present?   I have witnessed and read stories about this happening already, but usually only the stars receive it.  Again, I believe the guidelines could be laid out and permission given before the warmups begin.

I cannot wait to get back coaching on the sidelines to do this someday, I hope others think about this proposal and consider it.

I would love to hear your thoughts.  Have a great Monday!